Prioritizing yourself can be challenging in any relationship, especially a long distance one. When you’re juggling a partner, friends, work, school, and more, finding time for yourself can seem challenging. For many couples, a large time difference adds an extra layer of complexity. I’m grateful that my boyfriend and I live in the same time zone, but I got a taste of extreme long distance when he spent part of the summer in Africa while I was home in Colorado. During those weeks, I decided to embrace our mismatched schedules rather than dwell on them. I focused on my summer classes, spent quality time with friends, and prioritized activities that made me happy. This time apart became an unexpected opportunity for self-care, reminding me that taking time for myself is just as important as nurturing our relationship.
Here are some self-care practices that help you maintain balance, empowering you to love both yourself and your partner more deeply:
1. Embrace Quality Time with Friends and Family
Spending time with friends and family is essential for maintaining a strong support system outside of your relationship. Sometimes people in long distance relationships feel like they need to save all their spare time for their partner, especially if time zones or schedules don’t match perfectly. But remember, it’s important to have non-romantic connections with loved ones when you’re in a relationship—long distance or not! Dedicating time to your loved ones nearby will keep you grounded, happy, and connected.
2. Take Care of Your Physical Health
Taking care of your body is one of the most foundational acts of self-care because it benefits both your physical and mental health. When you’re healthy, you feel more positive, resilient, and energized. Exercise doesn’t have to be intense; even going for a walk around the block can make a positive impact on your health. Regular physical activity can boost your mood and reduce stress, making you better equipped to handle the emotional ups and downs that can come with a long distance relationship. Additionally, trying to eat healthy, get enough sleep, and take care of your mental health all contribute to your overall well being.
3. Pursue Your Passions and Interests
When you’re in a long distance relationship, it’s essential to spend time on hobbies and interests that bring you joy. Think about what makes you happy—maybe it’s painting, reading, gardening, or baking. Whatever it is, make space for it. Engaging in activities you love can lift your spirits, give you a sense of accomplishment, and remind you of your identity. Remember, your partner fell in love with you for who you are. Pursuing your passions keeps that part of you alive and helps you stay fulfilled.
4. Set Personal Goals
Being apart from your partner can provide a unique opportunity for self-growth. Take some time to reflect on where you want to be in five or ten years. Are there any new skills you want to develop, courses you want to take, or career goals you hope to reach? Setting and working toward personal goals gives you a sense of purpose and fulfillment outside your relationship. It’s also a great conversation point with your partner—sharing updates on your progress, encouraging each other, and celebrating each other’s accomplishments can bring you closer together.
5. Schedule Regular Alone Time
It’s easy to feel like every free moment needs to be dedicated to keeping in touch with your partner, especially if they’re far away. But just as you set aside time for communication, it’s equally important to set aside time for yourself. Setting aside some dedicated “me time” allows you to recharge and connect with yourself—a valuable practice for everyone! It could be as simple as reading a book, meditating, journaling, or taking a bubble bath. During this time, you’re allowing yourself to be focused on your well-being, which, in turn, will help you show up as your best self in your relationship.
Practicing self-care in a long distance relationship is all about finding balance. By nurturing yourself, you can stay fulfilled and resilient, even across the miles. Prioritizing self-care helps you become a happier, healthier partner—one who can endure the distance and grow stronger in this journey with your partner.
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